Think Big Dream High,E60- Be an Honest Person

Honest

1.Being honest means there are similarities between what is spoken and what we believe, similarities between what is intended and what is being done, similarities between what we preached and what is being practiced.

2.In short, similarities or conformities between the external and internal behavior. Implement what we intended or planned to do.

Reality in Life

1.Too many leaders gave promises to their followers and most of it unfulfilled. Too many of the nation’s top leaders gave promises to the rakyat but most of it unfulfilled. Too many bosses gave promises to their employees and most of it unfulfilled. Too many married couples gave promises to each other but most of it unfulfilled. Too many school going children are not telling the truth what they have been doing in and out of school.

2.It looks as though for the modern day society, there is lacking in conformity between the external behavior and the inherent belief. In other words, there is an increasing number of hypocritical behaviour, insincerity and liars among people  in the modern day society. Their main interest is only in ousting and making the other party suffer in humiliation.  As a professional who think big dream high obviously we do not want to be placed in this category. Not wanting to be dubbed as a hypocrite, liar and not walk the talk.

Tips

1. The initial bonding between the mother and her newborn up till the time she stopped breastfeeding the child has some impact towards the child’s future behavior. A baby is innocent and his character is moulded through religious belief, culture, lifestyle and the behavior of the mother. A mother who believed in honesty upholding integrity as a way of life will naturally instill the elements of honesty, respectability and integrity in the child. 

  

2. A child need to be taught and trained from an early age to be an honest person. Parents must monitor 100% their children’s upbringing before they are influenced by the environment and societal factors. This happened before the child  is sent to the day care centre, nursery or first started watching TV at around 3 years of age.

3. Being indoctrinated with the elements of honesty, respectability and integrity by the parents from an early age till the child is around 15 years of age could provide a strong defence for the child from being easily influenced  by negative elements. At the age of 15, the child started gathering the need for  passion, wants, emotions, spiritual needs and  materiality. Parents in educating the child  could add in doas as part of  the effort  in making the child be a good and honest person throughout his life. A good and honest person in whatever field he ventures, be it as a public servant, artist, entrepreneur or as a leader.

4. As a professional who think big and dream high surely we will not be able to turn the clock back to the time we were just a baby. In order to have a clear conscience, the best thing to do is to repent, improve ourselves, be regretful of the past wrongdoings and determined to be someone that can be trusted and not a hypocrite. In order to implement our repentance , we need to enhance our religious knowledge through readings of the kitab Tafsir or learning from experienced religious teachers who practiced what they preached.  

5. Every organization be it private or public should include in  their employment selection  policy that candidates vying for public servant post, corporate or future leaders should be  those with good, honest and with high integrity family background.   In the developed countries the background of the future leaders are thoroughly checked. As an example, the candidate for the post of Prime Minister of Japan, his family background, education and his past performance need to be scrutinized in detail. This goes for every candidate who offered themselves for election, their background will be thoroughly checked.

6. The background checked is done in a rigorous manner and the results are out in the open to be evaluated by the Japanese voters and the nation as a whole. The outcome, the Japanese people have as their leader a person who is respectable, honest and can be entrusted to care for the people and the country.

7.If there happened to be  just one isolated case of irregularity, the media will highlight and exposed the issue until it brought pressure to the candidate and make him step down voluntarily. The leader himself will responsibly stepped down when criticised by the people eventhough the issue is not directly related to him. He took responsibility over the incident and seek forgiveness from the people. In Japan, within a span of 10 years there could have been 7 Prime Ministers. In comparison to some other nations, there are leaders who have been in power for over 40 years.

8. In the olden days, promises were made verbally and it can be relied on till death come by. This was built on the basis of trust, respectful of each other and sincere in making and fulfilling the promise. Today as it is, we relied on written documents when making promises. It gets thicker every day eventhough it is only a pre-nuptial agreement. The thicker agreements or manifesto, in a way is a reflection of the low level of trust between one another . Sad to say, despite the thightness of the conditions of the agreements, there are many cases of fraud and people not honouring their promises. As a result, when making promises, the agreements must be thick to cover the interests of all related parties.

9. Do not make promises if we are uncertain of fulfilling it.  A promise made and fulfilled is better than ten promises and only fulfilling one. Taking heed of the current situation, it is best that we prepare and remind ourselves not to be involved in any kinds of wrongdoings, deceit and going against ours, the public’s and stakeholder’s interest. As a member of the community, to win everybody’s heart is difficult but to destroy the public’s trust is easier. This through just one promise unfulfilled.