Think Big Dream High,E32- The Frying Culture

Frying

1.Frying as we know it, is frying of food in the pan. In the process of frying, condiments such as chillies, onions, garlic, black sauce, spices etc are added and the combination depends on the chef and the dish being cooked.

2.Frying here is not the act of frying food in the pan. It is a subtle way of referring to the act of manufacturing a story favoring oneself or his group and painting a negative, deceitful, manipulative and  untruthful things about the other party.

3.There are those who practice the  frying culture in an amateur way and there are those who practice it in a professional manner. There are those who did it unintentionally and those who did it purposely. The are those who did it in an ad-hoc manner and those who did it with proper planning.

4.In a worse case scenario, there are those whereby this frying culture is a normal routine in their daily lives. Life seems incomplete if  in a day, you failed to practice the culture. Frying with bamboozling connotation comes with specific condiments. Usually the condiments revolved around friends, tuition classes, pretty ladies, money, projects, position, power, influence etc. It all depends on who is frying and who is being fried.

Reality in Life      

1.Those in the habit of frying the others did it for various reasons. There are positive and negative reasons. However, for all intents and purposes, the act of frying gives the upper hand to the person doing it.

2.A student wanting to escape a disciplinary action is forced to bamboozle his teacher. A child wanting to escape from being scolded by his parents is forced to bamboozle his parents. Husbands or wives wanting more attention from their spouses is forced to bamboozle their husbands or wives.  Employees wanting to escape from being sidelined by their superior is forced to bamboozle their bosses.

3. There are also employees wanting to be in the good books of their bosses will continuously bamboozled their bosses. Heads of Departments or Agencies who did not complete the work assigned or did not achieve the KPI for his agency will have to think of a variety of excuses, ways and means to bamboozle his Minister in every Post Cabinet meeting.

4. The leaders are also not spared from bamboozling their members especially during their party AGM.They want to impress their members that they are the best to serve the rakyat. These leaders either in service or retired have always been portraying that they were championing the rakyat’s woes but in actual fact, the rakyat were never cared for by them.

5. Discreetly, he only took care of his business partners, the rich and wealthy, his friends and relatives. This obviously is not made known to the rakyat as he knows how to cover his act which had been carried out in a world class manner. These leaders usually quoted, “the rich and wealthy work hard for their money and you too can be rich and wealthy if you work as hard as they do”. These were among the phrases frequently quipped by the leaders to bamboozle the rakyat. There are many such leaders throughout this world. In the end it’s the rakyat that brought them down. 

6.The examples above indicated that the frying culture can be  found  in every level of societies. Its as if there is nothing wrong in practicing this frying culture. It has become a way of life.

7.We are fully aware that this is a wrongful act and a big sin. Despite knowing that It is a big sin as we keep on doing it. We enjoyed practicing the frying culture on others and have no guilty conscience about it.  If others are doing it so can we.

8.For the short term, those who practises the frying culture usually escaped from being detected by their victims. However, sooner or later, those who keep on practicing the frying culture will be detected and made known to the public. Their body language usually gives them away. Their facial expression, the movements of their hands, head, smile etc are reflective of their intentions and actions. The characters of the people who practices the frying culture are sometimes moulded to be as efficient as a mamak frying the mee mamak!.

Tips

1.The characters and intentions of a person will determine whether he or she practices the frying culture. If there is a spark of guilty conscience in him, he will not do it. If he is afraid of committing a sin, he will not do it. If he has iman, he will not do it unto others. He is fully aware and his conscience is always reminding him that Allah SWT knows his bad intentions and Allah SWT knows and sees  All.

2.To do away with this frying culture, a strong willpower is required. We need to equip ourselves with adequate information and knowledge. We should  always impart our duties in a proper and effective manner.

3.Do our homework, make references and carry out researches as much as possible. Say and do the right things even though this may not be to the liking of others. Do it in a diplomatic manner.  Admit when there’s something missing. State the obstacles faced in a rationale and acceptable manner.  We become stronger and confident with proper and adequate preparation. Our facial expression will reflect our sincerity. We need not be pessimistic and scared. Only those who are pessimistic and scared will practice the frying culture.

4.Remember that the truth will always prevail. The truth will prevail over all kinds of wrongdoings. In the end those who speak the truth and nothing but the truth are the real winners. To be able to embrace this sincerity, we need to always think big dream high and have a strong heart.